The other day a friend of mine called to express that she was having difficulty dealing with the break-up of a romantic relationship. She was obsessed with finding an answer to the question of how someone that professed to love her so much could “just walk away”. After attentively listening to her, I asked a probing question: In the final analysis, does it matter more that he walked away or how he could walk away?
At the end of the day, the person is no longer in your life. That person possessed the capacity to leave. They walked away because they could. Therefore, you must allow them to be who they really are. Even if you convinced them to stay a little while longer, you would only have them in flesh and not in heart. Can you convince someone to care for you, be dedicated to you, and to love you? Love seeks the object of its desire. Love compels and does not have to be compelled.
If someone chooses to walk away from you, let them walk. Can our destiny be tied to people who are no longer here? People leave you because they were never joined to you in the first place. You cannot truly make someone stay, nor should you want to make them stay. What godly pleasure can be derived from forcing someone to love you?
Move on and let it go.
God made you a promise. The devil can do nothing about that promise, so he becomes active in the process or the pilgrimage. The process demands that we endure a series of arrivals and departures. We can’t stay where we are and not everyone is ordained to come with us to the next destination on our life’s journey. Therefore, when someone leaves, it doesn’t mean that person’s departure was diabolical. It doesn’t mean that person is a bad person. It just means that person has completed their leg of the race. It’s time to hand off the baton to the next runner.
Let it go and let them go.
I’m praying that you will be endowed with the gift of saying bye-bye. I’m praying that you will develop the discipline to “let it go”. Lord, give us the discernment to realize when it’s dead. God, give us enough faith to move on!As it turns out, your destiny is waiting on you.
They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]